“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different, it’s accepting the past for what it was, and using this moment and this time to help yourself move forward.” – Oprah Winfrey
Accept what is
I have always loved that quote.
I think there is something so true about acceptance being a huge part of forgiveness. It means that you can see the past experience truthfully and authentically. You can see the good, the bad, the ways in which you may have been an innocent victim, and the ways in which you may have contributed to the situation.
Eventually, you can see the ways that you have grown, learned or expanded your emotional intelligence through the experience. You might also see where you may need to have better boundaries or make different choices for the future.